The Mom Guilt is Real
The “mom guilt” has been real lately. I literally feel like I’ve been going going going nonstop this summer. I’ve been focused on building myself, adjusting to being a single mom, and really just digesting the last year of my life which has been a whirlwind. It’s not that I don’t spend time with Alora because I do. We are together all day every day, but I feel guilty for not being able to play every time she wants to play or go outside whenever she wants too. I’m always doing something to better our future, but she’s two and she doesn’t get that yet. Mom guilt comes and goes but the last couple of weeks I can’t seem to shake it. Over the course of the last two weeks, I’ve started to set designated Alora and mommy days! Whether we go and do an activity or we stay home, I try to carve out as much of the day as I can and just spend it with her. It makes me feel better and of course, she enjoys it.
“87% of moms feel guilty at some point and 21% always feel that way all the time”. If you ever feel yourself catching a case of mom guilt please don’t beat yourself up! You may feel like you’re not spending enough time with your child, but 9 times out of ten they don’t feel that way and at the end of the day that’s all that matters. Also, talk to your mom friends! Be completely transparent with them and let them be there for you. We all feel the same way ya some point of another so it’s nice to have the support of someone who understands. Don’t get so caught up with that guilt that you slack on the things you want to focus on. You are a mom, but you are also your own individual who needs an identity other than just “Mom”. Try and find a balance and the rest will work itself out